There probably isn’t a woman alive who hasn’t had a certain picture in mind when she thinks of her perfect wedding. It’s a picture that probably starts in our minds when we are little girls, each reading fairy tale stories, complete with knights in shining armor and riding on dazzling white horses. That’s certainly the way it was for me for almost as long as I can remember.
Fortunately, it was when I met my future husband, Danny Teo, that things really started to make me believe that the images I had in my mind weren’t just fantasies. They could be real if I wanted them to be. Better yet, as things went on in our relationship, I started to really believe that my life with Danny would be closer to being the fairy tale that I was envisioning. And as I have found in this short period since, dreams really can and do come true when you really want them to.
They say that what you hold in your mind you can bring to pass. I have always believed that, but surely, even for me that didn’t mean fairy tales, but as my relationship with Danny Teo continued and grew, I started to believe that it really was true, and I was right. This being the case, I didn’t have the usually hectic, frantic feelings that most brides have when planning their wedding. I was making a fairy tale come true, which made thing easier and better for me than most others.
Making things even better was the cooperation I so lovingly got from so many people who proved their willingness to help me make this fairy tale a reality. My family’s participation as well as that of Danny’s was so forthcoming and given so willingly and lovingly that it actually made planning and eventually carrying it out to be a dream come true.
It is little wonder when we chose a setting for the wedding that we chose the Fullerton Hotel Singapore. After all, even a fantasy needs a good location to start. We got that from Fullerton Hotel Singapore, and the people I worked with there made everything a dream. There were times when I felt so tempted to pinch myself to make sure that everything was perfect, that everything would be just what Danny and I had envisioned for our special day.
Obviously, as much planning and work people do to make a wedding happen, nothing really becomes the actual wedding until the guests begin to arrive, and there was nothing different about that for our wedding either. The truth is that no wedding could ever really be the best that it could possibly be without having all of our most cherished friends and family members there for the occasion.
I will never forget the feeling I got when the first of our guests started arriving, so many from so far away to make this special day all the more special with their presence. So many people who cared so very much to come see Danny and I become one took the time out of their very busy schedules to make our day special, and I hope made their day special by being part of our celebration of love.
I have seen so many brides choke up totally when it comes time to walk down that aisle, but that wasn’t the way it was for me. On the contrary, I was so overwhelmingly happy and excited to see all of my friends and family gathered together as well as to see Danny’s friends and family want to attend and celebrate with us was more than I could have possibly asked for. The only way that I could possibly describe the feeling that I got walking down that aisle was overwhelming.
I cannot describe to you the feeling I got when that regal sounding music started and I began my walk down the aisle. To say that I felt like a princess would be an understatement. I felt like a queen, and my father’s arm was more to me at that moment than just a loving show of support. He was like a king he was so proud. I knew, however, that at the end of the aisle was my prince, the other half of the reason we were all there, and when I saw his loving, smiling face, everything else in that room fell away. Finally, I knew at that point that all of the dreams and planning that we had done to get to that point, wasn’t really a goal in and of itself. It was, instead, a gate to a beautiful life together, a future that neither of us could fully appreciate even at that point.
Isn’t it funny how until that point everything seems so unreal, everything you do is all done to get to that point then, all of the sudden, it’s really happening, and despite how much work you put into it, all of the emotions come flooding into your mind and overwhelm you? That is precisely the way that Danny and I both felt at that moment. Those feelings are worth more than all of the bling in the world.
Then with the exchange of vows, rings, and I dos, we were no longer two people, but one totally loving couple, never to be taken apart. To just think about that moment isn’t even real to me, but it is. I don’t think it is possible for anyone who goes through a wedding to not think with fondness of every part of the wedding, but especially the vows and everything that goes on during those brief moments together. But it all boils down to those short few minutes and everything about life changes. Nothing about life is me or mine anymore. It’s now we. Never again can you consider yourself alone when it’s time to prepare a meal or make so many other kinds of arrangements. Even the little things like sleeping side by side are special, when hair that wasn’t there before finds itself on a pillow to wake up to, or the smell of his cologne makes waking up that much more special. Who couldn’t get excited by those kinds of those, but before times like these actually happen, it’s hard to imagine them even happening, much less being the joy that they are after “I do.”
From that point forward we were no longer Amber Cheong and Danny Teo. From the moment we turned to walk out of that church we were Mr. and Mrs. Danny Teo, husband and wife, loving each other together forever. We were so excited to finally be husband and wife that just as is the case with so many other couples, we were so tempted to skip the reception, but we knew that so many people wanted to see us, some for the very first time, that those temptations didn’t last long.
So many people came from so far away that we could not have possibly missed our reception to at least begin the process of thanking everyone who took part in our wedding. It’s a good thing that the reception site was so large as to give everyone the opportunity to let their hair down for the joyous celebration, and as everyone knows, how could anyone forget so much wonderful food. Everything at the reception, just like the wedding, was perfect, and I don’t think that there is any amount of planning that can go into an event like our wedding that could guarantee success until the guests are there, because, besides us, our guests are what made our wedding such a special time never to be forgotten.
I have always thought that the reception to our wedding–to any person’s wedding–was almost anticlimactic since it’s the wedding that is the real event. And in a way that’s the way it was for us too, but at the same time I think that the most natural thing in the world when you have love is to celebrate when two halves of the love come together to bond permanently. That’s the way it was for our reception. Even better is the fact that everybody celebrated, not just us. Perhaps it’s because there were so many people there who were there for precisely that reason, to celebrate our new lives together, and to celebrate our lives beginning together.
And what a celebration we had! Who could possibly forget the reception that was such a celebration and thing to remember at the same time? In fact, if I regret only one thing from that entire event it was the fact that we didn’t have time to adequately thank everyone who had taken so much time, effort, and yes, expense to be a part of our special day. Needless, to say that everyone who was there deserves our thanks, but I also hope that each person who was there considers themselves to be part of the reason our day was so special because our wedding wasn’t just an event that brought two people who love each other together. Instead, it was an event that made two families one and two groups of friends into one as well. We hope that this togetherness is celebrated just as our love is.
It’s always so nice when everything at the wedding and the reception come together so well as it did at ours. As everyone will remember, the food was fabulous, which I must thank all of the wonderful folks who helped with that. Needless to say, you were part of the reason that our day was so special just as much as everyone else in the ceremony was.
A loving thanks also needs to go to all of our friends and family who contributed all of the wonderful gifts that we received to start our lives together. All of you probably are well aware–especially those of you who are married–of how much we need to get started right. Fortunately, your love as well as thoughtful consideration went into each gift and is sincerely appreciated. Setting up housekeeping can be such a difficult thing since you never start out married anyway, but when others can use their experience to select things that they know will be needed, it’s almost like you always feel especially blessed.
Danny and I are so looking forward to seeing the photographs from our wedding, not only to relive our day, but also to remind us that is was day one of a lifetime together. For that we are so thankful and grateful and we anticipate every new day together anew. I know that we will both so appreciate the opportunity to see those memories come back, the good, the fun, and the funny, all of which were part of our wedding and reception.
Andrew Loyd Webber wrote the lyrics to a song for the play Cats that used the line, “Love, love changes everything,” and it’s true. Thanks to our wedding and all of the wonderful people who took part in it to make it what it was, everyone’s lives were changed. That doesn’t apply to just Danny and I. Yours changed as well since you were a part of our wedding. For that we are very grateful, but we hope you recognize the change in yourself as well, because we believe that our love for each other should radiate to everyone who took part, making us all better, happier, and more blessed people in the future.
Another line from Webber’s Cats musical from the same song, in fact, goes like this, “…nothing will ever, ever, ever, be the same again,” and it’s true. As happy as I have been in my life, our wedding was the beginning of another new phase in our lives, and because of our love, nothing will ever be the same again. It’s our hope that our wedding, our love will cause the same feeling in your lives as well. We wish you all peace and love.